Some people need to be reminded that it's not 1950 anymore. It is far more common to see a career mom now than a stay at home mom. And guess what else? DADs are now getting the opportunity to stay at home and help raise their children. A role reversal, if you will.
As much as I would honestly LOVE to be able to stay at home with R, it isn't practical financially nor contractually (meaning I am bound by a contract). If it weren't for the friends I've made at work, I wouldn't get a lot of adult interaction. That is imperative, whether we are parents or not.
I loved being home for 6 weeks and when I take the rest of my maternity leave I will love being home and watching him grow. Honestly though, I needed to go back to work for said interaction. People asked me if I was ready, and I was...as much as I didn't want to leave my 6 week old at a daycare, I was ready and needed to return to work.
Working is in my blood. Before I had him, I thought I would love being a stay at home mom. But thinking about it now, I don't know if I could handle it. Working FROM home I could do. But I give a lot of credit to the stay at home mom's...it's a lot more work than people realize.
I do not regret nor do I feel guilty about going back to work. My baby doesn't know it now, but when he is older I hope he will realize that everything I do from today on is for him and because of him. He will be taken care of because his parents work and raise him. He will understand that life isn't just handed to him and sometimes, it does suck and it gets hard...but BECAUSE we love him so much, we work.
If anyone is getting flack or feeling guilty, stop it.
As much as I would honestly LOVE to be able to stay at home with R, it isn't practical financially nor contractually (meaning I am bound by a contract). If it weren't for the friends I've made at work, I wouldn't get a lot of adult interaction. That is imperative, whether we are parents or not.
I loved being home for 6 weeks and when I take the rest of my maternity leave I will love being home and watching him grow. Honestly though, I needed to go back to work for said interaction. People asked me if I was ready, and I was...as much as I didn't want to leave my 6 week old at a daycare, I was ready and needed to return to work.
Working is in my blood. Before I had him, I thought I would love being a stay at home mom. But thinking about it now, I don't know if I could handle it. Working FROM home I could do. But I give a lot of credit to the stay at home mom's...it's a lot more work than people realize.
I do not regret nor do I feel guilty about going back to work. My baby doesn't know it now, but when he is older I hope he will realize that everything I do from today on is for him and because of him. He will be taken care of because his parents work and raise him. He will understand that life isn't just handed to him and sometimes, it does suck and it gets hard...but BECAUSE we love him so much, we work.
If anyone is getting flack or feeling guilty, stop it.
Very well put and I so agree I don't regret going out and working but what I didnt like we're the hours at which I had to work leaving my kids with a sitter at night while I worked and then ended up having to sleep alot of the day when they were awake.But I also got my time with them and took advantage of it. And I was a single parent for awhile as well but we loved each other and made each day the best they could be. Spud will know why you are doing what you do and it will teach him that if you want something you have to work for it and he will also know and feel the love you have for him you are doing right and don't let anybody tell you different
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